I met a friend recently over coffee, she was going through one of those "feeling sorry for yourself" moments. She went for a job interview and didn't get the job, she was pretending to mask her sadness, her words to me "I was rejected, I'm clearly not good enough". I could see the lump in her throat. What does she mean "not good enough?" when she has everything going for her.
Rejection is a solitary experience.
If it's any consolation, I've been there, worn the T-shirt many a time, and no doubt as long as I keep striving there will be many more T-shirts waiting for me (probably a size or two larger by now). My friend's situation left me thinking. She was really saddened about the whole experience, she was that put out she kept on repeating the rejection word over and over. If I could read her thoughts they were probably saying "failure". It really pulled her down. I had no doubt she would have been so good for the job and maybe she was right the interviewer was "rude and obnoxious" but I had some news for her, it was more a reality check "in this great world we live in, there are rejection T-shirts ready and waiting to be worn for all of us", I reassured her, this month alone I must have worn a hundred of them.
Rejection is a part of life, in many instances it has served me well, I have been turned down, let down by many a snotty job interviewer and looking back I am grateful rejection had a place for me. Sometimes we just have to face up to the fact that things are just not meant to be, one thing I know for sure is we are meant to be, so let's enjoy life whatever it brings
My thoughts for handling rejection:
Rejection doesn't standalone; it is often accompanied with unpleasant feelings, such as worry, fear and anger. Let the negative feelings go, the sooner the better.
Face rejection by saying simply and sweetly "so be it" and look to the future
Rejection is the loss for the other side. (Now we're talking)
Take comfort in others, I'm sure many of us can talk a good story or two of rejection
Sometimes things happen for a reason, to help you in many respects
Focus on your strengths, your power, and never close the door on opportunity because of rejection.
Rejection always leaves a route for choice. You can choose to let it tip you over, or you can choose to win. Ultimately it's up to you.
Rejection can be a good thing, take it for what it is a mere set back. If you are experiencing rejection today, momentarily face up to it then dust yourself down and move on, there are bigger fish to catch